Mar 052017
 

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Living in Reality with smokey border

I have been doing a lot of thinking and contemplating as of late.  While I have not come to a lot of conclusions, I have begun to realized that some of the things I desire in life do not line up with reality at this present time.

That is hard to accept.

I want it all, and I want it now!

Or, at least, that is how it seems I am supposed to be feeling and acting.

How I am feeling is … unsure.  There have been a lot of changes over the past year which have left me feeling out of sorts.

(As I look back through posts, it seems I have left out a lot of things which happened during this past year, in addition to my husband’s new job and our move – finishing up a home addition and remodel that took 2 years; my husband finishing up his MBA, while also working full time; a foster child coming and going; the kids’ official ADHD diagnoses; the passing of someone from my past and the loss of a friend’s child; plus more I have forgotten about.)

The current decision in front of us has to do with finding a more permanent housing situation.  Currently we are renting, allowing us time to get to know the area.  While we could stay here past our lease, it would mean extra money each month going toward rent.  This is not a bad situation in the short term, though not something we want to continue in the long term.

So, how do I adjust my desires of a home (perceived or real) with the reality of life at this time?

Desires

I would LOVE to have 40 acres with trees to make maple syrup and invest in timber, fields for the kids to run through, space for chickens and bees and dogs, and area to dedicate to an orchard, and room to put in a large (~1 acre) raised bed garden.  I greatly desire a house with a front porch (like our last home) where we can sit on the porch swing at night, watching the sun set and the kids play in the yard.

A kitchen with an island to mix up yummy creations with the kids would also be great. As would a basement and a whole house fan, for those days when it is too nice to rely on processed air to keep you cool.

A external wood stove to heat with and solar panels to help lower the cost of energy would also make it on my list. As would a cat to help with the small critters I would preferably not have around the place.

child shredding zucchini in kitchen

Reality
  • I grew up in the country, where mowing the grass took an hour or two on the riding lawn mower, and that was for a yard which was only an acre or two in size. We currently do not own a riding lawn mower.  Yes, we could purchase one.  Also, using our current push mower on a smaller yard might take just as long.
  • Dad used the tractor and brush hog to clear the brush away from the edges once a year or so.  We have neither of those pieces of equipment.
  • My parents ended up blocking the whole house fan (we called it an “attic fan”) because it was a source of heat loss in the winter.
  • My husband is allergic to cats. We could have an outdoor cat, though there is no guarantee it would stay around our place.
  • My husband’s allergies also make him sensitive to something as simple as a burning candle.  Hence any wood stove for heating would have to be an external unit.  Not a bad thing, but yet an extra cost if it is not already installed.
  • While I own chain saw chaps, we do not own a chain saw. So, again, another purchase or having to buy already split wood from someone.
  • We do not live near family. If we had chickens and dogs, let alone other animals, we would not be able to travel as much.  Whether it would be to see family or take a weekend away, we would have to find someone to come take care of our animals.
  • A basement, while a nice feature, does not work well in the area where we currently live.  It seems to have something to do with the soils and wet basements in the older homes leading to mold.  I have yet to see a house with a basement in the town where we currently live. Though, there is an abundance of storm shelters, as severe storms are a part of life.
  • I have lived the past 6 years without a kitchen island.  The kids still have learned to cook and bake.  It is not a necessity.

The most important conclusion I came to, though, was this – those things take time.  Time each day/week to be a good steward of what we are given.  Time to grow and mature, to produce fruits of our labor.

40 acres is not a part of our reality at this time.  Perhaps a smaller piece of land, but not 40 acres.

… to be continued

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  2 Responses to “Living In Reality”

  1. […] The most important conclusion I came to, though, was this – those things take time.  Time each day/week to be a good steward of what we are given.  Time to grow and mature, to produce fruits of our labor. (from Part 1) […]

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